Free To Dream

I believe that God is a God of promises. He is the Author and the Finisher of our faith. He promises things to His people throughout the Bible and modern history, whether large or small, and we see these promises come to pass when these people stood by the promises given to them and were anchored in the Word of God in the face of adversity and doubt.

I’ve had many friends who have recently gotten pregnant or given birth (one of them gave birth to a handsome baby boy today!) and I’m reminded again and again as to how being pregnant in the physical realm is so similar to being pregnant with a promise within the spiritual realm. When God placed a promise inside of my spirit, it took about two years for that promise to grow and to mature [it was given to me about this time of the year in 2012 and it came to pass at the beginning of this month!]. As pregnant mothers have to eat for themselves and the child developing inside of them, I also needed to ‘eat extra’ in the spiritual sense. As expecting mothers are to avoid alcohol and drugs etc and certain activities to protect the wellbeing of their developing child, I also needed to take precautions to ensure that dream stays safe and alive in my spirit. It was hard, especially when I shared my dreams and hopes with others, for me to keep believing that God will come through with His promise. I stumbled and fell countless times in the past two years when I forgot the promise I was carrying but every time, God picked me up with His grace, brushed the dirt off me, and sent me off to do His will again.

My amazing co-writer emphasises that protecting the dream is as important as finding/perceiving it – there are some things that can permanently damage your dreams or your faith. It’s crucial then to stay alert and block out harmful speeches or ideas that you should never have to hear. Since you can’t unsee something you have seen, it’s in your memory forever. Even if you were/are subject to those things, make a choice to brush them off, shake it out, and keep your eyes fixed on the God who gave you your vision and your dream.

If you know what God has shown is authentic and supported by the Word of God/Bible then you won’t even need confirmation from other sources or approval to get to the place where you’re so sure and rooted of that dream. Although I have found that when you do ask God for confirmation, it usually happens because it is easy for God to confirm something He has said.

As I mentioned before, protecting the dream/seed is important as you would your own child. Maybe that’s why an amazing idea that has come to fruition is usually called a ‘brain child‘…

My character and faith matured in the process too as I believed and stood firm by the belief that my dream, no matter how crazy and counter stereotypical it was, was going to come true in a world filled with cynicism, unbelief, and dream-crushers.

Dream BIG! Don’t limit a limitless Creator to human concepts, dimensions, and ideals. Luke 18:27 says ‘The things which are impossible with men are possible with God‘. Just because you can’t justify the means to accomplish such a big dream, it doesn’t mean you should downsize the dream to make it more viable or easier to achieve. God gives us crazy dreams and equips us to trust Him to bring those dreams to pass – divine appointments, life-changing opportunities, doors being opened, promotions, and many more! I believe we were also given these dreams [that may seem crazy and irrational to the rest of the world] so that when these dreams do come to pass, they may be used to show God off and His goodness to those who don’t believe. In 1 Corinthians 1:27-29, Paul talks about how God will deliberately set up a seemingly impossible situation and then come out flying high so that no one will question that it could only have been God.

Dream BIG! Don’t limit a limitless Creator to human concepts, dimensions, and ideals! 

Proverbs 23:7 says ‘For as he thinks in his heart, so is he‘, so it’s also evidently important to embody the dreams that God has given you and to not forget or misplace them. In the process, the dream also becomes part of you, like a baby would as it develops inside of the womb, and you develop a strong emotional/physical/spiritual connection to the child/dream. It becomes the very thing you think about in the morning when you wake up, it occupies your thoughts throughout the day as you share your dream and go through the doors of opportunity opened wide for you.

Giving is definitely a big part of achieving your own dream. To fulfil a crazy-awesome dream one must play a part in helping others fulfil their own crazy-awesome dreams. Luke 6:38 said ‘Give, and it will be given to you with good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use/give, it will be measured/given back to you‘. What we sow is what we reap, in any area of our lives. When we invest in the dreams of others, there is a good chance that they will invest in ours too. We create connections, heart ties, and friendships when we sow into the lives of others, and we’re investing in heaven and its plans too. Find and keep people around you who would stick by you when it seems like the big crazy dream is just a fantasy, who endlessly encourage you when the going gets tough, who would run the race with you and keep you going, and ultimately, those who love you and is passionate to see you fulfil your crazy-awesome dream. 🙂

Even if you don’t get a direct return when you invest in the dreams of others (which happens sometimes), it is important to keep pressing on, because at the end of the day God sees your heart and He rewards accordingly and exceedingly. Sometimes, His rewards may come as a surprise or it may be shown in ways that we have never experienced before, so keep a look out for them! 😀

A also mentioned this – Everyone should also take some time to just sit with God and dream those crazy-awesome dreams with Him. It is also important to step back sometimes and look at the big picture, otherwise it would be easy to get lost in the details and logistics, forgetting the reason why you’re going through those details in the first place. This occurred several times in the past few days when I’m arranging my visas, flight tickets (my dream involves travelling) – I’m starting to get caught up in logistics, and also getting slightly frustrated I must admit. I’m reminded to thank God again and again and to trust Him even with the logistics.

I read this somewhere a few months ago:

You do the dreaming, and God will do the calculating.

Looking back, the seeds for this dream were sown about 8 years ago but I kept it buried and I kept smothering it because it seemed too ridiculous at the time and I needed to focus on school and uni. I let it die in my spirit. But God is a God of life and second chances and I’m truly thankful that He gave me another chance. He breathed life again into that dream inside of me when I was ready and willing to nurture and protect it. And now it’s come true and I couldn’t be any happier! 🙂

For this week I’d like to challenge you to dream with God and write it down somewhere where you can see it. Trust that He has your best interests at heart (He does!) and He knows the desires of your heart. Perhaps you had a dream but you thought it was too ridiculous like I did mine – I want you to know that it’s never too late to revive that dream.


D ❤ xxx

(Many thanks again to A for contributing his two-cents to this post)


The Reason for Love

A few hours ago, a good friend of mine ‘A‘ asked me a thought-provoking question:

‘Is love an emotion?’

Is it something we can’t help but ‘feel’ or ‘fall into’?

According to the handy-dandy dictionary, love is defined as – 

  • a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person,
  • a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection,
  • sexual passion or desire,
  • a person toward whom love is felt; beloved person; sweetheart
  • a term of endearment.

In light of these definitions (and the many many many many many many many many songs dedicated to love), it is easy to think that love is just emotion and feelings (the warm and fuzzy feelings, as people call them sometimes).

Personally, I think love is more of a response, stimulated by emotions arise from circumstances and situations. Love is not merely an emotion because it is usually accompanied with or followed by action, whether large or small. We love on purpose. It is a choice. We can choose to love or not to love. Emotions will arise regardless.

A throws this statement into the conversation and we ended up discussing it:

People confuse the emotions evoked by love to be love itself‘.

This is the way I see the statement:

Say for example I’m frustrated with a friend about something he/she has done, and I think that the reason I’m frustrated with this person is because I love him/her (as a friend) and I want the best for him/her (who wouldn’t, yeah?). With every emotion or feeling, there is usually a root thought. Usually we are frustrated with someone if he/she has disappointed our expectations in some way, and therefore has nothing to do with me loving that someone. If I’m not careful enough, I might think that because I love him/her, I therefore have the right to continue being frustrated with him/her (because to me, that’s what love is) rather than confront him/her about THE ISSUE ITSELF (and resolve it).

I’m confusing the emotions evoked by love for him/her (in this case, frustration) with love itself. 

A gives another example – his mum gets worried when he goes somewhere without letting her know. She thinks it is because she loves him that she worries, but the actual problem is a ROOT of fearfulness.

I would like to challenge you to think about any similar situations you’ve been in and have a think. 🙂 There are so many facets and aspects to this (and the concept of love in general).

This is the way A perceives the statement:

To A, it’s easy to know whether you love someone if you would choose to love them even after they have done an unimaginable deed towards you (betrayal etc).Emotions (good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant), are there to colour the love. Otherwise, love would be pretty boring. However, colours appear different under different lighting. The same goes with emotions – this is why we should never make decisions based on our emotions.

(It’s like shopping in a grocery store with an empty stomach. Everything is appealing with an empty, usually growling stomach. I cannot tell you how many chocolate bars I’ve bought, Lindt dark chocolate of course, just because I was peckish. Most of them are still in my bedside drawer.)

A then throws another spanner into the works and asks, ‘So what about being in love?

Being a born-again Christian and being so desperately in love with God (but having never been in a proper relationship i.e. I’ve never dated anyone), I found it hard to answer that question fully. However, I do know that despite my tumultuous past and my uncertainties for the future, God’s love has never failed me.

So what exactly does ‘being in love‘ mean? I might follow up with another post after having a thorough think-sesh over this. 

Unfortunately for the culture we live in, we throw the word ‘love’ around a lot, most of the time quite haphazardly. We do the same with the word ‘hate’ (believe it or not, it is actually a very powerful word).

‘Goodness me, I love this chocolate souffle.’

‘I love this colour!’

An ‘I love you!’ shouted from one end of the carpark to another to a friend before parting ways (I do that all the time).

Many don’t stop to consider what exactly they mean when they mention the word ‘love’. We can be in love with anything or to hold deep affection for something or someone – I would protect my friends and family to the end, no matter what. But I think that in everything we do, say, or think, even ‘falling’ or ‘being’ in love, it has to be filtered through the sieve of Kingdom/God principles. It is a wisdom thing – being equipped with a powerful Spirit who continually empowers you, counsels you, guides you, and discerns all things for you.

A sees being in love as a heightened form of love. Again, he reiterates it is a CHOICE. So whenever you’re faced with an option, you can choose whether to love or not to love, no matter where the person has come from or is going through. Being in a love has an element of spontaneity to it. When we are seeing them the way God sees them (fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God, very much loved, valued and special in the eyes of God), the choice to love is so automatic that not wanting to love isn’t even an option. Your decision is always the same, unaffected by circumstances.

Danny Silk puts this very nicely,

“Yes, it’s vulnerable and scary to keep your love on toward someone who has become a perceived threat—you cannot guarantee what he or she is going to do. But you can guarantee your own choice. And you can always choose connection.”
― Danny SilkKeep Your Love On

agrees that it is essential to love and forgive the person who’s becoming or has become a threat to your mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing. However, it is also important to know how to protect yourself if you’re attacked or anticipating one.

In the quest to love the unloveable, you can still be vulnerable but not defenseless. (Think about it :))

God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.

This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus.

There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us.

1 John 4:16-19 NIV

Love is a lot of things, but essentially, it is a direct translation for God Himself.

It is also a language (5 to be specific, according to Gary Chapman’s ‘The Five Love Languages):

  1. Physical touch
  2. Words of encouragement
  3. Gifts
  4. Quality time
  5. Acts of service

Although everyone has a certain affinity to one or more of these, essentially they are called languages and they can be learnt. They are not exclusive either, the lines can be blurred. Many times genuine love is misunderstood because the receiver may not understand the gesture in which it is communicated by.

To end this post, the Scriptures paint a very vivid picture regarding the extent of God’s love for us – burning like blazing fire, stronger than the death, jealous demanding as the grave, many waters can’t quench its thirst (Songs of Solomon 8:6-7).

1 Corinthians 13 is famous for its description of what love is, contrary to the dictionary definitions. Have a look at this:

The Way of Love

13 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned,[a] but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[b] it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Love is not merely an emotion.

It is a choice.

It is active, not passive.

It gives more than it takes.

Ultimately, LOVE conquers all. 

Penny for your thoughts.
(Many thanks to A for contributing to this post)
Be blessed, ❤ ❤ ❤
D x